Archive for November, 2008

You forgot Poland!

November 22, 2008

There ya have it. Nepal has legalized same-sex marriage. Yet another country I can move to and expect full equality under the law.


Falling leaves

November 20, 2008

It’s times like these that sum up Baltimore for me. It is apparently “slippery rail season,” in which falling leaves slick up the tracks and render our haphazard light rail basically useless. This has been a problem since the 1980s. The city may have good intentions, but it can’t even remember that with fall comes dead leaves.

Bring it.

November 18, 2008

This is fine by me. 

Truly, truly fine. 

I’ve dealt with Christian proselytizers at gay pride parades, prop 8 protests, and on random street corners. I’ve never seen anyone try to engage. People chuckle and move on. Everyone just takes their mom’s advice and ignores them and hopes they’ll go away. But they don’t. They get bolder. They mobilize. They come together, raise millions of dollars, and strip away a right you have fought and bled for. Then they have the fucking gall to come into YOUR neighborhood, the fucking gay mecca of the entire fucking world, and try to convince you that you’re wrong and evil and should repent or you’ll go to hell. Shame. Shame on them. 

This crosses the line to violence, and I’m done. But this hateful, organized, group speech deserves a proactive response. Like the fellow says: “Stay out of our neighborhood if you don’t like us! Leave us alone!”

Why marriage matters and why we should fight for it

November 18, 2008

Someone in a comment far, far away was peeved that gay marriage proponents could consider their battle equivalent to the battle for abortion rights for women. How can the deaths of millions of women, she asked, be compared to a piece of paper? To inheritance benefits? How can that silly gay boy hold a sign that checks off Women’s Rights, African Americans’ Rights, and leaves Gay Rights conspicuously unchecked? 

How indeed. 

Marriage is so small. To straight people everywhere it’s just a piece of paper. It’s not universal health care, it’s not prison abolition, it’s not even increased unemployment insurance. So why fight for it?

1) The movement for marriage has a clear, concrete win. It galvanizes people from all communities (both pro and anti marriage equality) because of this clarity. It is one of the few fights today that exists solely in the legal sphere, so that a single law or ruling could actually achieve this victory. Compare this to fighting poverty or curing HIV/AIDS or implementing universal health care. Fighting for marriage is like starting to clean your house by picking up last night’s take out containers and throwing them away — you can do a deep clean later and reorganize your cd collection after you have a small and easily accomplished victory under your belt. 

2) Marriage protects our families. Marriage is a short-hand legal arrangement that produces a family. A marriage license costs about $100. Finding an attorney, compiling the probate, medical, and other contractual documents necessary to approximate marriage will run into the 4 figures and will still not create an equivalent bond that is necessary to protect and nurture a family. 

3) Marriage protects individuals in the case of separation. No one talks about this, because talking about divorce during a conversation about marriage is even ickier than gay sex, but divorce rights are as important as marriage rights. 

Thats all for now, but I really want to come back to this as time goes on. I just need to feel like one post doesn’t have to say everything.  


It’s Me!

November 17, 2008

I’ve been an inactive, surreptitious blogger for two years, lurking mostly, but sometimes piping in if I disagreed strongly enough. Then Prop 8 passed. Then the fallout began. And I am a real blogger now. 

I now have too much to say and a place to say it. So be on the lookout for three posts on the fight against the proposition, marriage equality, and the new queer movement. I’ll bring the fun.  

More about me: I’m a second year master’s student in Public Policy, so I am a master of memos, a statistics nerd, and, frankly, am fed up with the false equivalency and neutrality in research. I’m ready to be out in the world again. I’ve been with my partner, S., for 6 years, and we married in California in August. We’re planning another wedding for next August. 

Other passions of mine include community development, urban policy, Baltimore, anti-racism, feminism, gentrification, citizenship, craft beer & homebrewing, and my cat, Loki, who is certifiably insane.